What would your life look like if you focused who you are being rather than what you are doing? In todays post, we will be discussing how shifting your identity to create your aligned life makes change so much easier.
I feel like we live in a very masculine world right now. Hustle culture is everywhere. Do more, push harder, force it until it happens. And honestly? I fell into that trap myself. And I know so many of you have too.
But what I’ve realized about creating an authentic life is that, it’s so much more supportive to focus on who you are being rather than what you are doing.
I know that might sound a little confusing at first. Like how am I supposed to create the life I want if I’m not doing? It’s not that you’re going to stop taking any action at all. But there is a key to this and it all comes down to one word: identity.
It Starts With Who You Believe Yourself to Be
When you believe yourself to be something: some quality, some version of you. You naturally start adopting those traits. They’re not things you have to force. They just become part of how you move through the world, because that’s who you are.
So when you’re wanting to create change in your life, the real question isn’t “what do I need to do more of?” It’s:
- Who is the person I’m wanting to become?
- What does she naturally do in her everyday life?
- How does she show up, simply because that’s who she is?
When you align yourself to that identity, you don’t have to force habits. You just naturally move like this person, because you are this person who does these things.
Chasing vs. Aligning
Chasing comes from a lack mindset. You’re grasping at something because deep down, you feel like you don’t have it. You’re trying to force it into your life.
Alignment comes from a place of already knowing. You know you have it. You know this is your life. You do the things you do simply because this is how you show up. This is who you are.
Alignment still takes effort
But it’s a softer approach to getting what you want. It comes from attracting your life rather than forcing your way there.
So How Do You Actually Create This Alignment?
1. Get clear on what you’re wanting to create and why
So many of us are just following our conditioning. We follow a blueprint that was never really ours to begin with: school, job, marriage, kids. And then we get to the end and wonder why we feel jaded or unfulfilled.
I want you to ask yourself, why do I actually want this?
2. Define what it actually means to you
Everyone’s definition is different and that’s the beautiful part. You get to make this yours.
For example, let’s talk about “getting fit”:
- For one person, fit might mean daily walks, eating mindfully, and living by an 80/20 rule.
- For another, fit might mean serious muscle, tracked macros, and maybe even competing in a bikini competition.
They are two sides of the same coin. But their approach is going to be completely different. Because each one has their own version of what fit means to them.
3. Get specific about what that version of you actually does day to day
Once you know your why and your definition, start thinking through the details:
- What does she do when she wakes up?
- What does she prioritize?
- What are her non negotiables?
If you’re not sure, find someone on social media living that lifestyle and see how they share their day to day. Let it inspire you. But remember, this is your life. So you can change things that don’t fit.
Another example: Let’s say you want to become an entrepreneur because you want to make more money. Then you ask yourself, why do you want more money? Maybe it’s because stability is one of your core values. But then when you actually break down what an entrepreneur’s daily life looks like, you might realize the ups and downs don’t actually feel stable at all. So you decide maybe this isn’t the path you want to take. But you won’t know until you break it down.
4. Start small
Pick one thing. Focus on that. Once it feels natural, add another. And another. Slowly, you’re not “trying” to live this lifestyle anymore. This is just who you just are. So there’s not need to rush the process.
Blocks Will Come Up
Expect some self-doubt. Expect some emotions to surface. You might find yourself asking, am I worthy of this?
That’s normal. That’s part of the process.
This work isn’t a one and done thing. Some of these patterns are so deeply ingrained that unlearning them takes time. You might think you’ve worked through something and then out of nowhere, it gets triggered all over again. And thats ok, you are human.
When those moments come up, the only thing you need to do is figure out how to support yourself through it. It will pass. Just keep going on your journey.
If you are ready for your identity shift, but you would like some support through the process. I would love you help you!
